I just got off the phone with my husband. We had a short, but efficient conversation. Some really big topics were discussed, and real communication took place even though it was such a short exchange. Sometimes I am sure that he thinks that I am not listening to him, but I really am. More than he knows, actually. My brain doesn’t really function well unless if things are good between him and I. If we’re at odds then my brain seems to sprint around in circles never really being able to settle into concentration throughout the day. It seems that right above my left ear there is this pull. A pull… that brings me right back to why things aren’t going okay, and what… if anything I can do to fix it. I hear all of the words he says to me over, and over, and over again. I analyze them. I twist them. I let them keep me in a place of constant tornado. I can.not.function. until the tornado stops.
Today he mentioned to me that my perspective is off. That I am looking at the bad instead of all of the good. That I’m harping on making everything perfect… making him perfect… and not allowing the good to come with the bad, and that maybe all I need is to take a step back and look at things from a different perspective.
I can relate to this so well! I’m a never go to bed angry kind of girl. And never walk away until the matter at hand is totally sorted out. It can be kind of like a tornado for sure, as my spouse and I communicate in VERY different ways and usually have very different perspectives, so sometimes its a good reminder to back down and try to see things differently, but of course that is always easier said than done! :)
Yes, yes and yes, Amanda!!! :) xo.
Good point. I hadn’t thhuogt about it quite that way. :)
You’re the greatest! JMHO
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